
Shri Jagat Singh Bisht
(Master Teacher: Happiness & Well-Being, Laughter Yoga Master Trainer, Author, Blogger, Educator, and Speaker.)
Authored six books on happiness: Cultivating Happiness, Nirvana – The Highest Happiness, Meditate Like the Buddha, Mission Happiness, A Flourishing Life, and The Little Book of Happiness. He served in a bank for thirty-five years and has been propagating happiness and well-being among people for the past twenty years. He is on a mission – Mission Happiness!
🌌 Love, Life, and the Art of Letting Be 🥰 🌌
In our times—those sepia-tinted decades before love acquired apps, algorithms, and exit clauses—life unfolded at a leisurely, almost indulgent pace. A boy’s heart, like his bicycle, travelled freely through the neighbourhood. There was usually one girlfriend nearby, one at school, a quiet admiration for the best friend’s little sister, a sports girl who ran faster than your courage, and sometimes, mysteriously, a girl who seemed to appear from nowhere and decided—quite inconveniently—to fancy you.
That, more or less, was the first twenty-five years of life. After which came marriage:
a well-intentioned alliance arranged by elders, solemnly endorsed by family elders and sealed with the approving nod of Pandit ji.
Romance bowed respectfully to tradition, and life moved on—sometimes gracefully, sometimes with a limp, but always forward.
What we were experiencing along the way were not random emotions, but different chapters of love, each with its own grammar and music.
🌱Childhood Love — Puppy Love
“Puppy love” was innocent, largely platonic, and driven by curiosity rather than chemistry. It had no agenda and no deadlines. It thrived on shared laughter, stolen glances, and the thrilling possibility of holding hands without anyone noticing. Its charm lay in its lightness—love without possession, affection without fear.
“Bachpan ki mohabbat ko dil se na juda karna,
Jab yaad meri aaye milne ki dua karna..”
(Do not sever the love born in childhood, keep it close forever in your heart,
And when my memory stirs within your soul, pray for the moment we may meet again)
We didn’t know then that some loves are meant to remain exactly where they begin—in memory, untouched by reality.
💘Infatuation
Then came infatuation:
a hormonal uprising masquerading as destiny.
It was intense, irrational, and often spectacularly inconvenient. Logic took a long holiday, and obsession applied for permanent residence. Every song felt autobiographical; every setback felt like Greek tragedy.
Infatuation is love in italics—dramatic, breathless, and exhausting.
💓Romantic and Passionate Love
This phase brought intimacy, shared dreams, and the dangerous joy of planning a future together. This was love that spoke of values, compatibility, and “where do we see ourselves in five years?” It was earnest, idealistic, and hopeful.
This is where many believed love would remain forever—unchanged, unsullied, and undefeated by time.
🥰Pragmatic Love and Enduring Love
Life, however, has a remarkable sense of humour.
Pragmatic love arrived quietly, often after marriage, disguised as routine. It was the love of shared silences, glances that replaced paragraphs, and companionship through medical reports and minor crises. It was less poetic but deeply reassuring.
Enduring love followed—patient, seasoned, and resilient. It did not demand fireworks; it appreciated warm lamps. It knew that staying mattered more than sweeping declarations.
💙Transcendent Love
And then, for some fortunate souls, love evolved into something expansive and selfless—transcendent love.
It shed ownership and expectation, becoming universal, empathetic, and deeply humane. It wished well without wanting anything in return.
🔺The Changing Shape of Love
The Triangle of Love—comprising Intimacy, Passion, and Commitment—does not remain static.
In adolescence, the triangle leans heavily on passion, sometimes at the expense of sense. In later years, the triangle grows wide and sturdy with intimacy and commitment, while passion smiles indulgently from a corner, content but quieter.
Love matures, just as we do—less dramatic, more durable.
🌷Chalo Ek Baar Phir Se Ajnabi Ban Jayein Hum Dono
(Come, let us once again become strangers)
Transitioning from a youthful love to an elder-approved arranged marriage is often delicate. Ideally, it requires closure, honesty, and grace.
In reality, events sometimes move too fast, leaving no time for a proper goodbye. The regret of an unspoken farewell can linger stubbornly, like an unfinished sentence.
In such moments, one takes comfort in the iconic line from Eric Segal’s Love Story:
“Love means never having to say sorry.”
Perhaps it is less a justification and more a balm.
🌱Love, Memory, and Old Age
As one grows older, memory becomes a private cinema. Faces, moments, and voices drift across the mind’s screen. There is a fine line between nourishing nostalgia and disturbing the peace of present lives—especially when those past loves now belong to entirely different worlds.
Fairness in old age means restraint. It means ensuring that curiosity does not cause anxiety—to them or to the spouse who has shared your everyday life. Today’s world offers quiet reassurances.
Mutual friends, distant updates, and gentle knowing often suffice.
Sometimes, knowing they are well—surrounded by grandchildren, absorbed in their own stories—is enough. Speaking becomes unnecessary. After all, the girl you once knew is now a woman shaped by decades of joys and sorrows that have nothing to do with you.
The ultimate act of love is often leaving someone in peace.
🥀Rang Dil Ki Dhadkan
My advice is disarmingly simple.
Whenever nostalgia knocks too insistently, listen to this song:
“Rang dil ki dhadkan bhi lati to hogi,
Yaad unko meri bhi aati to hogi…”
(Surely the colour of my heartbeat must reach them,
Surely my memory must visit their souls.)
And then—return home.
Sing, smile, and perhaps even dance with the partner who has walked beside you through the unglamorous miracles of daily life:
“Aey meri johara jafi tu abhi tak hai haseen aur main jawaan..”
(O my radiant jewel, my precious embrace, you are still as beautiful as ever, and I remain youthful in your love.)
Because love, in its highest wisdom, teaches us this:
Some people are meant to be remembered with tenderness,
but only one is meant to be held while the music plays.🔸
♥ ♥ ♥ ♥
© Jagat Singh Bisht
Master Teacher: Happiness & Well-Being, Laughter Yoga Master Trainer, Author, Blogger, Educator, and Speaker
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